My Thoughts On Valentines Day

Tomorrow is that very special day that everyone loves to pieces or hates more than any other Holiday.

Personally, I'm with the group that believes it was a holiday created by the greeting card companies to make more money.

I'm not really big on V-Day. A lot of you are probably thinking, "That's because you probably never have a boyfriend on Valentines Day." You know what I have to say to you? You suck at guessing, because I have had a boyfriend every Valentines Day since I was 14 years old. I'm just not big on the holiday. 

Valentine Day is just an excuse for girls to be bitchy when their boyfriends don't get them 6 dozen bouquets of roses and $6,000 worth of jewelry. It's a time for men to go out on the town and find girls that are so depressed that their alone on Valentines Day that they'll sleep with anything male that moves. This is just pitiful to me.

Don't bother buying me a card or flowers on Valentines Day. Okay, well maybe I'm getting a little hateful here. I wouldn't be angry if my fella got me flowers or a card on Valentines Day, but I'd rather this happen:

Don't bother even mentioning it's Valentines Day. 

Instead, Do this:

Don't waste your money buying me a dozen roses on Valentines Day. They're going to die in less than a week with my ability to take care of plants. Instead, when we go out walking in the Spring or Summer time, pick some flowers off of a bush in someone's yard or something and tell me "You look very pretty today." 

Don't bother with the "I couldn't live without you" Valentines Day Card. I'd much rather you walk by the card section in the middle of June and think "I'm going to get a card for Bee, just because I'm thinking of her." Then, of course, get the card, and put some nice note in it like "I love that you make me food when I'm sick." Those are the kind of cards that I will put away and keep in my memory box. 

Don't bother with expensive jewelry. I'm probably going to lose it anyway. Instead, give me a butt load of quarters and take me to the quarter machines to let me get 25 cent and 50 cent rings and little toys of my own. These, I keep around in my purse. They would be a constant reminder of love.

So, there you go, folks.

Take it or Leave it.

 

Why Long Term Relationships Fail....

This feeling....

Doesn't last forever.

You hear everyone say that relationships aren't easy. However, when you first enter one, you would swear those people were lying to you. It's all roses and flowers. Sex and "I love you"'s. Dates and words of romance.

Listen to me when I say those things fade.

Being in a long-term relationship is hard. When I say hard, I actually mean to-the-bone, soul testing difficult. Eventually, you move in together. You talk more about chores and work than where you want to go with your life or the interests you have. You get caught in this loop of dependency and under-appreciation. It's not pretty, folks.

"where is your heart? Because I don't really feel you."

I've been pretty down about things recently if you haven't noticed through my blog and face book posts. I've been falling into a familiar old place and I don't like where it's taking me. I took this opportunity to get extremely drunk and have "girl talk" with a good friend of mine, Miss Mary.

She's been with her boyfriend 4 or 5 years and she can relate a lot to what I needed to say.

In our good hour of talking about insecurities of relationships and the firey blaze dying into a single constant flame, I took one thing she said to me straight to heart. Since that night, it's been replaying in my head.

"Men need to feel loved too. They need that reassurance."

Men don't act as though they do, but this is the truth. Men need to be reminded just as much as us women that they are wanted, both mentally and physically. This is probably the biggest problem in relationships. When you become serious with someone, you take on a certain responsibility in their life. You are making a promise to be there to listen to stories about their terrible day at work, to share in daily chores, and be an active part of their life. A lot of times, this role can being to be taken for granted. Once you're used to your partner being around each day, you forget how lonely it was before they arrived. This is no excuse, however, you stop giving him the attention he needs and deserves from you.

When men, or women, feel as though they aren't getting the attention they need, they do just as children do. They act out. Most definitely not in the same ways that children do, but in a way that is generally very harmful to the relationship they are in. They begin reaching out to others for that attention they need. Friends and family usually don't make the cut because they've been receiving the same amount of attention from them for years. Instead, they generally reach out to the opposite sex. They want to get that feeling that someone needs to talk to them each day and actually hear what they have to say. By refusing to give your significant other the attention they deserve, you're doing your part in driving them further and further away.

As far as how to give this attention to men...besides "I love you" and making sure he's getting laid regularly, well, I'm still working on that. Leave some comments if you've got any advice there.

As far as making your special lady feel as though you still appreciate her.
-Maybe buy her flowers once a month...like the day you got together(So, if you got together May 26, buy her flowers or even just a flower on the 26th of each month).
-Remember to always tell her she's beautiful.
-Kiss her for a long time without expectations of sex. or at least kiss her more once you've had sex.
-Give her reasons why you love her, don't just say it. Ex: I love you because of the way your hair smells when you get out of the shower.
-Take photographs with her to let her look back on all the wonderful years you've spent together with clearer vision.

Again, leave comments and let me know if you can think of any more.
If I can get enough advice, I might do another post purely on how to appreciate your significant other.

What Goes Up...

All of you, as my readers, hopefully understand how much this blog means to be.
I'm not positive if you've learned my love of anchors.

In any case, I found this photo online today and I've decided I need this.

This is absolutely, wonderfully perfect.

"What goes up...must come down"

The beginning photo on my blog has always been hot air balloons.
I've wanted another anchor tattoo that isn't just an anchor.
Plus, I was just talking to Dani today about how I wanted something tattooed in this very spot, but it was going to have to take a lot of thinking about.


I may change up the colors a bit, or I may not.
This is beautiful and I really want it.


Also, I found this recently and may consider putting it on the other thigh. I'm trying to stray away from so much text on my body because I know that sort of thing ages worse than anything else because it can easily become unreadable with saggy skin. Then it holds no meaning at all. Pictures always last, even if they are a bit distorted.




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