I've recently discovered Etsy and it's been quite a shopping adventure. I've found a ton of things on there that I feel need to be shared with the world. So today, I'm going to share my Etsy finds with you.
You can find these amazing 5x7 prints for only $5+S&H.
You can find these prints, plus many more at this shop.
You can also find these amazing, REPO the Genetic Opera 6x8 prints here for only $5.50 a piece (shipping included). You can order just your favorite one or all of them for the full collection.
I also found some super awesome plugs at really good prices. You can find all of these in this Etsy shop from anywhere between $23-$25 (which is extremely good for plugs). They offer sizes from 8 gauge to 1 inch.
I also found (and ordered) this awesome personalized penny necklace. I got ones for Lance and I with the year we got together and our initials on it. You can choose the year, the initials you want on the penny and whether you want a heart or the "&" sign placed in the middle of the two initials. They also show up on a little card that says "Lucky to have found you." You can find this awesome treasure here for only $6.95+S&H.
The final thing I'm going to post about finding is this kick ass ring. It's called Mexican Fire Opal and it's absolutely gorgeous. Go ahead, Google it to see how beautiful it can really be. You can snag this sucker for only 17.80 (S&H included) here.
I'm sure I'll post some more of my great Etsy finds at a later date, but hopefully you've found something of interest in the finds of today and will maybe check out the site yourself. =)
4. I'm too broke for that shit.
Having a child in a home that isn't financially stable is 2,000 times more stressful than having a child in a home that is. If it comes down to whether I'm able to feed and clothe my child or feed and clothe myself, obviously I'd choose the child, but I don't want to have to make sacrifices like that right now. I don't want to even think about having children until my debts are paid, I don't have a car payment or any kind of loan. I want to actually have money to get my child things s/he wants every once in awhile instead of wondering how I'm going to make it paycheck to paycheck. 3. I don't have the time, energy, or patience.
I barely feel like I have enough time for myself and I don't even work fourty hours a week. I like sleeping in. I like getting a full 8 hours of sleep each night. I can't imagine having to spend all of my free time taking care of another human being. Besides, God knows I do not have the patience to listen to all the screaming and crying children do. 2. Child Care.
Two words. Expensive. Inconvenient. Child care is just yet another thing you have to spend money on and daycare hours are so inconvenient. You better hope you can get a morning shift at work or your going to have to depend on family members or hire a nanny to come to your house. 1. I've only been 21 for four months.
I can't imagine having a child right now. I look at so many people that I went to high school with that already have children and it's just weird. I feel like if I had a child right now, I'd....ugh. Well, I'd feel pretty helpless. I've been out of school for three years now. I've been just kind of working and living and just doing that whole life thing. I still want to go back to college, though. I want to get out of Missouri for a couple of years and go see the States. I want to travel, take pictures, and plan big trips of a whim. I want to be able to go out on the weekends, I want to be able to go grocery shopping at 3 am, because Wal-Mart is rarely busy at that time. I'm only twenty one. I'm just finding out who I'm going to be for the rest of my life and just on the brink of all the adventures I want to have. I want to have time to live my own life before I have to put someone else's first.
So all in all, I'm a very happy lady. I can't imagine having a child right now. Not to say there won't be a day when I want to have children, but that's at least another 10 years down the road. Ever since I got out of high school, Life has just been flying by. I want to make sure to do everything I want to do before I even think about Children. So, I'm extremely happy I don't have a little Mini Me to call me "Mommy."
Now when I say free money, I guess it's not technically 100% free. It does require two things: A computer and time to sit on your ass and do something online besides checking Facebook.
Other than that, It is definitely all free. What am I talking about? Well, Swagbucks of course. I signed up for swagbucks roughly a year ago now and have earned well over $300 in extra spending money. You've all heard me brag about it.
In fact, I've earned $90 between paypal and amazon gift cards within the last three weeks.
Although I pretty much stick with Paypal and amazon gift cards because they're whats best for me, but Swagbucks offers gift cards in tons of different stores.
The best thing is that the swagbucks are so easy to earn. You can watch videos, play games, do surveys, or do free trials. They also offer a nifty shop and earn feature. Say I get $100 in amazon gift cards and use them buying whatever I chose to buy. For every $1 I spend, swagbucks will award me with 3 swagbucks, which is equal to .03. So If I spend all $100, I would get 300 swagbucks, or $3. Granted, this doesn't seem like a whole lot, but it's better than spending $100 and getting nothing back.
Theres also a swagbucks TV mobile application that you can download onto your android or iphone. It just runs through videos and will cap out at 50 swagbucks, or 50 cents. That's 50 cents a day without doing anything.
If you use the swagbucks search engine, then you have the chance of earning with every search. It's random, but sometimes you can get over 30 swagbucks.
My point is that I have never spent a single dime on this website, yet I've managed to get almost $400 out of it. I want all of you to do the same. Get those things you see on amazon that you know you'll never have the spare money to just out right buy. Get money towards your paypal and transfer it to your bank account to help pay the bills or go out on a nice dinner date. There is absolutely no downside to free money, so jump in while you can! :D
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1. I got a pearl instead of a diamond.
I surprisingly haven't gotten any questions about this yet, but I'm sure some of you are wondering in the back of your mind, "Why didn't she get a diamond?" I'll tell you why: I don't like diamonds. Oh, dear lord Jesus, a girl that doesn't like diamonds! Is the world coming to an end? No, I've just never been a fan. I liked drawing diamonds on my school papers in middle school, but I mean, they're really fun to draw. Pearls would just be circles and that's no fun. I've always had a love of pearls. When I was 12-13 years old, I bought a fake pearl necklace from a yard sale for like 25 cents. I wore that sucker everywhere, I think my obsession began from there and only stemmed further. I only ditched wearing the old yard sale ones on a daily basis when I got real ones when I turned 16. (It's hard to see, but I had them on in the following photo). Overall, what I'm trying to say is if I had gotten a diamond, I would have been extremely disappointed. I got the exact ring I wanted and I couldn't be happier.
2. It's going to last 5 years.
You heard me, It's going to last 5 years. Lancelot and I are not planning on actually having our wedding until 2019. The first thing I want to address before I list my reasons why is this: I know I'm going to get some crap about "What's even the point of being engaged? He should have just bought a promise ring. Engaged means 'actively planning a wedding.' " Let me start here: Promise rings are STUPID. Promise rings are basically an expensive thing a man buys to say "Hey, I promise that someday I will give you a ring that promises that we will someday get married." That's dumb. If we have been dating for a few months, I'm under the impression that there is a possibility we are going to get married. If we've been dating a few months and you're just planning on splitting things off, do it now! Give the other person a chance to find someone that's actually planning on possibly sticking around. Engaged does NOT mean actively planning a wedding. Engaged is defined as "pledged to be married," and pledged means "a solemn promise or agreement to do something." Nowhere in the dictionary does it say "actively planning a wedding." So, we're going to have a 5 year engagement. We have good reasons. Here's why:
1. We want to get to get rid of debt and unnecessary bills. Right now, Lance and I both have loans and we have a car payment. Our goal is to get rid of the loans, pay off the car, get me a car, get rid of hospital bills and other pending debts we have. It will give us a real chance for both of us to build our credit as well. This also gives us plenty of time so save up for the wedding itself so that I can have the wedding I've always wanted.
2. This gives me plenty of time to actually plan the wedding. I don't my wedding to have the "tattoo effect." You know how when you get a tattoo, a few months or years later, you see something very similar to yours, but better? Then you think, "I should have just waited and I could have had the better option." Well, I'm doing this with my wedding. I don't have to spend every minute of my free time planning my wedding since I don't have a one or two year time limit. I can just skim through magazines and only randomly bookmarking things I like and not feel obligated to choose something that I don't absolutely fall in love with.
3. What's the big rush? People who get married closer to 30 have less of a chance of getting divorced. We want to travel to a different state. We want to be able to own our own house. We want to go back to college. We want to get our lives where we want them to be, then get married.
3. He's going to wear a ring too.
Since we are going to be engaged so long, Lancelot is going to wear a ring too. It's nontraditional, but it seems silly that it is. I mean, women wear a ring to ward off single men from hitting on them, but the single ladies out there have no way of knowing a man is taken until there's a wedding band on his finger. I like that he's wearing a ring, too. It makes me happy.
Overall, the thing that matters is this: I have found the love of my life. We're not going on entirely conventional route, but this is the best option for us. Lancelot makes me feel incredible and I couldn't be happier. We've been through a lot in the last two and a half years, but more than anything, I want to say:
Well folks, 2013 is coming to an end. The first thing I want to say is this has probably been the best year of my life so far. I did not realize when this year began that it would be such a defining time of my life. So, I'm doing a post about all the important events that happened this year so I don't dare forget what an effect this year had on my life.
When the year began, I looked like this. I was nearly up to 165 lbs and honestly, kind of miserable. The first few months of the year weren't fantastic, but things didn't take long to pick up.
In April, Lance and I started changing our lifestyle. We dropped soda and picked up clean eating and exercise. Over the course of the year, I managed to lose 47 lbs and get down to 118 lbs. I am now the thinnest I've been in my entire life. I'm so happy that I finally have the body I have always wanted.
This year, Lancelot became and Uncle. His brother had a beautiful baby girl that is just a doll.
On May 13, Lance and I found out we were approved for Autumn Creek Apartments. On May 31st, we moved all of our stuff in and started our lives together in Farmington. This apartment has been the best thing to happen with us. We've had nothing but great times since we moved in here.
I went to my first strip club.
In July, I got to go to Warped Tour and officially meet my favorite band of all time: Motion City Soundtrack. I got a picture with Justin Pierre and got to show off my "Hooray for the madness" tattoo to the band. It was my teenage dream come true.
We got this lovely little nubb tailed lady.
I went on my first float trip with friends.
This summer, we had a lot of really fun bonfires.
Lance and I picked up disc golf and made a lot of good friends through playing.
I went to my first rave.
My little sister turned one year old this year.
I finally got to celebrate my 21st birthday! It was just amazing!
Last, but definitely not least, My darling Lancelot proposed to me. We're engaged!
So, that's my year in review, guys. It's been a crazy one. Let's toast that this next one will be even better.
First of all, I want to start off with my 2013 New Years resolutions and what I managed to actually achieve and which ones didn't go over so hot.
Here was the list I created at the end of 2012.
1. Get Down to Healthy BMI. --ACHIEVED
At the end of last year, I was sitting at 158 lbs, but it took me 4 months and 7 more lbs (for a total weight of 165 lbs and BMI of 29.2 (BMI of 30 or greater is considered Obese)) to finally do something about it. My goal at the beginning of the year was to lose 20 lbs and get down to 138. Since April, I have lost almost 45 lbs and am now sitting at 120.6 lbs, which has left me with a BMI of 21.4 (18.5 to 24.9 is considered healthy). 2. Quit Smoking. -FAILED
I failed this one. That's pretty much all there is to it. I didn't really try hardcore for this, which kind of sucks. 3. Learn to crochet something other than hats, scarves, and purses.--ACHIEVED.
I actually crocheted both a skirt and a shirt. It was initially going to be my Halloween costume, but I changed my mind and haven't worn it at all. I did crochet it though, so this is a win. 4. Eat Breakfast as Often as Possible. --MEH.
I was really good at this when I first started losing weight. Then I became a big slacker and failed. So I guess ultimately I failed, but I'm giving myself some sort of credit for keeping up with this one for a good portion of the year. 5. Keep Blogging. --FAILED
I planned to keep blogging at least once a week. I ended up failing miserably after the first two months. I started back up when I started losing weight for fitness tips and progress pictures, but then I got caught up in life and stopped blogging again. 6. Work More. --FAILED
Although Lance and I haven't necessarily worked more this year, we have managed our money a lot better and haven't had to keep continuously renewing our loans. 7. Write Letters to my Aunt Janet. --FAILED
I didn't write her a single one. I never even got her address. This one went down the drain. 8. Write to My Future Self at Least Once a Month. --FAILED
Again, I didn't necessarily write once a month, but I still did write quite a few letters to my future self, so I consider this an overall win even though it wasn't exactly what I set my new years resolution for. 9. Maintain Healthy Relationships. --ACHIEVED
My relationships over the past year got so much better. When I became happier with myself and my body, I found that the relationships with the people I love got a lot better too. 10.) Don't Get Pregnant.--ACHIEVED
I don't think this one needs anymore said. I didn't get pregnant. Goal: accomplished.
Here are my list of New Years Resolutions for 2014.
1. Earn $600 in gift cards through swagbucks.
Over the last year, I've earned about $300 through swagbucks. I joined the website in January of 2013 and it took me awhile to get the hang of things. Now that I know my way around the site and what works best for me as far as earning free rewards, my goal over the next year is to double my profit. Honestly, I'll consider it a serious win if I manage to get up to at least $500. I mean, that's $500 in extra spending money.
2. Get More Fit
Although I lost 45 lbs over the last year, After about 2 months of being extreme about diet and exercise, I cut out the exercise outside of disc golf and some hiking and slacked on eating as well as I did when we first started the whole thing. My goal this year is to get fitter instead of thinner. I want to start exercising again and tighten up the rest of my body. 3. Quit Smoking
Yep. I'm trying this one again. I could save so much money and you know...my health if I could just work towards this.
4. Read at Least 10 Books
Lance and I keep talking about how we need to read more and honestly, I really miss reading. So, my goal over the next year is to read at least 10 books. 5. Get Rid of Debt
Since Lance and I are finally cutting down our monthly bills and paying everything off, I want to work on debt. We should have the car paid off by June. My loan should be paid off by February. Then we can work on paying Lance's loan off. Then we can move to hospital bills and similar things that have been sitting on a drawer asking to be paid.
6. See my Mom at Least once every 3 Months
I don't get to see my mom nearly enough since she moved to Potosi. I want to make sure to see her at least once every 3 months. 7. Write to My Future Self at Least Once a Month.
I'm carrying this one over from last year. It's important. I love seeing letters from my past self. 8. Get a Tattoo
It's been over 2 years since I got a tattoo, now. I want another. 9. Do More Creative Things
I want to paint more things to hang up on the wall. I want to draw more pictures to look back on. I want to make shrinky dink Christmas Tree ornaments. I want to paint beads and make badass bracelets. 10. Take More Pictures
I want to get a camera. I want to take more pictures. I want to be able to document all the good times that will come over this next year.
So, there it is. Those are my new Years Resolutions. At the end of next year, we'll see which ones I managed to keep up with.
Two years ago today was my due date for my first and only pregnancy.
My little Christmas baby.
My baby would be two years old. That blows my mind.
It's strange to think how one little thing, one moment can change your entire life.
If my child were here, my life would be nothing like it is now.
Although I miss my child every single day, I am happy where life has brought me.
I can't believe all the places I've been and adventures I've had in the last two years.
My baby would be happy.
He wouldn't want sorrow to control my entire life.
He would be proud that I am where I am.
That means in 10 short days, It will be December 21st. For many, this means nothing; For me, it means everything.
As many of you that have been long term followers on my blog, you already know this. When I was 18 and in my first apartment, I found out I was pregnant. My due date was December 21, 2011. Exactly one Year before Dooms Day.
I found out in early April of 2011 and lost my baby on May 28, 2011 at about 10 weeks along. When I was pregnant, I always told people that I was having myself a Christmas baby. When I got my memorial tattoo for my baby, I decided to get a teddy bear with blue and pink flowers (since I wasn't far enough along to find out the sex) and a Santa hat.
So the day is approaching once again. My baby would have been two years old, now. That's so bizarre. I mean, can you imagine me with a two year old right now? I know I sure can't. I am so not stable enough for that.
Don't get me wrong, I loved my little baby, despite that fact that I didn't even quite make it out of my first trimester. It was the most exciting and bizarre 6 weeks. I got to see his little head and his little heart beat. That tiny little life made me so happy in his presence and so sad when he had to be taken away from me.
I'm happy where life has brought me since then though. I mean, I live in a sweet ass two bedroom apartment with the love of my life and I'm drinking Busch beer listening to Bowling for Soup. I never would have been here had life led me where I thought it would when I first found out I was pregnant.
Although I miss my child terribly and would never have wished to have lost him. I'm living a happy life and that's okay. I remember when I first lost him, I thought there would never be a day where I went without thinking of him or what I did wrong. I thought there would never be a day where I could just simply be happy. I'm there now. I don't stress about what I could have done better or think of my child every second of every day. My heart aches to think of him, but they say everything happens for a reason. I'm not sure the reason for me getting pregnant, but I feel as though I understand the reason for losing my child.
My child left me in hopes that I would find the right man, that someday I could be truly happy. My child left me in hopes that I would someday carry another with the man that I truly wanted to spend the rest of my life with. My child left me because he knew that despite the hurt that I would initially go through, It would leave me to a better life. The life I was meant to be in.
I will always remember Baby Cay, but he will not overtake my happiness. He wouldn't want that.
When the 21st rolls around, I will mourn. I love my child, but my child would want me to be happy. That is what I want to be....happy.
I've written all of these anti-engagement blog posts.
I'm ending that here with saying this...
I was always under the impression that when you got engaged, it meant you needed to set a date and immediately start planning away all your spare time with wedding stuff. For some reason, It never occurred to me that couple can be engaged for 5-6 years before actually getting married.
I no longer see engagement as an announcement of "Hey everyone we know, this person and I are going to get married." I now actually see it as a promise of heart. I see it as something that someone does to say "Hey, I'm not necessarily saying let's go to Vegas and get hitched, but I don't want to spend a single day of my life without you, so I'm going to put this ring on your finger so everyone can know that they haven't got a chance in hell with you."
That idea makes me hate the idea of engagement a lot less.
In fact, I hate it so much less now that I'm going to actually give you an idea of how to create the perfect proposal for your lady (or gentleman, as some would have it).
Remember guys, this is a day that she will remember for the rest of her life. This is a story that she will tell all of her friends and family and that you're children and grandchildren will hear someday. Make it a good one.
First of all....something that I simply cannot stress enough, MAKE SURE SOMEONE HAS A CAMERA.
Almost every girl dreamed of the day she would be proposed to when she was little. When it finally happens, the very moment is going to be a memory she wants to keep for a lifetime. Make sure someone has a camera and is ready to take a picture and make sure the camera has flash if you intend to propose somewhere inside a building or outside during the evening.
Secondly, If there is going to be a ring, make sure you have it. The moment you ask her to marry her, she is going to want to stare it down while it all sinks in that she is actually engaged to be married. It makes everything 10x more real.
Thirdly, Unless you're planning on proposing in a photo booth or somewhere this just is not possible, damn near every girl dreams of her man bending down to one knee when proposing. I can't really say why this is important, but it is. It's the moment when a girl realizes that this isn't a typically moment. It gives her a moment to breathe in and realize what's happening before it actually does.
Fourthly, (is that actually a word?) Think Location. Location. Location. Location. Some are all down for it, but I wouldn't want to be proposed to in my home. Think of a special location that is important to you as a couple. Propose somewhere that you two will always be able to come back to whether it be the place you met, the restaurant you always go to when you have a little extra cash to spare, or maybe just a local park where you two have spent a lot of time together. If none of these really work for you, think of someway to incorporate things she likes. Maybe she's really fascinated with the sea or underwater life. Consider proposing on a boat or in an aquarium. Maybe you two often go hiking together, propose on your favorite trail to hike together. Remember to bring a friend or two to make sure they can get a photo of the special moment.
Five: Prepare what you're going to say. It's easy to get tongue tied in these situations. I mean, this is going to be one of the biggest days of your life. More than likely you're going to trip over your words if you've prepared what you're going to say, so at least be fair and give yourself a fighting chance.
Six: Try to incorporate things she likes. If her favorite holiday is Easter, you could hide the ring in an egg and send her on an egg hunt in the back yard. Maybe she has a fascination like pirates. Try to find a ring box to propose with that's shaped like a treasure chest. Maybe you two plan on going to see her favorite band in the next few months, if so, that would be a prime time to ask her to marry you.
Seven: Make sure to make a day of it. Don't take her to lunch at her favorite restaurant, propose and then go home to do laundry and clean the house. She's going to be filled with excitement. Maybe go to the mall or just spend the day doing things you love together.
As for now, that's all I have folks. Maybe this will help someone out. For all of you who are hoping to make a honest woman out of your girlfriends, I hope this helps.