1. You feel accomplished. Being in a good healthy relationship is like getting accepted into an Ivy League school. You feel really special and secure, and you’re also promised a job {marriage} when you graduate.
2. You learn so much about yourself. Every unattractive quality you never knew you had will surface and you’ll begin to understand yourself in a whole new way. This will allow you to make some necessary changes. Stable relationships are like crash courses in getting to know yourself. By the end of it, you’ll hopefully be a better version of yourself.
3. You can go to a bar or a house party and take solace in knowing that you have someone who loves you. The pressure is off. You look around and see people dressed to the nines in hopes that they can spend the next eight hours with someone who doesn’t completely repulse them. You wore Uggs and have ketchup on your face because you already have someone who promises to love you forever and ever. You put away the sequined single girl dress a long time ago.
4. Make up sex. It’s powerful and it’s vulnerable and it’s angry and it’s tender. It’s a cacophony of emotions and you can’t seem to get their body close enough to yours. Is there any way they can be more inside of you? Is there any way you can feel more connected?
5. You can dip your feet in the Compromise pool and wiggle your toes in the Selfless waterfall. Learning to put someone’s needs before your own is a valuable life skill that can usually only be achieved by entering a relationship and/or having children. Instead of being a rigid control freak, you’ll have to adapt a little bit and be open to different things. This is a good thing! Being a control freak gets you nowhere besides having a potentially lucrative career and an all access pass to the Tracy Flick Alienation Hour. It’s beneficial sometimes to eat Italian when you’re craving Mexican food. It’s good for your soul to know that you can’t always get what you want. And if you love the person, you really shouldn’t give a shit about eating spaghetti and meatballs when you were ravenous for a burrito.
6. You get the opportunity to become really good at sex. The people you have casual sex with don’t care if you’re a bad kisser or give terrible oral. They have no investment in the relationship so they just send you off to the next person. When you’re having sex with the same person, however, you get individual intense attention. You have the time to figure out what works and what doesn’t, which will definitely help make you a better lay. If you’re with someone indefinitely, you should have no qualms with telling them things like, “Kiss like this. I like it when you do it like this and I don’t like it when you do it like that.” Constructive feedback is the best gift a lover could give you!
7. You can relate to your friends who have been in relationships. There’s no longer this awkward divide between you two. You get it! All those times they bitched to you about a poorly worded text message makes sense! You’re sorry to ever have thought they were just being a crazy bitch!
8. You can know what it feels like to love someone unconditionally. To really know that you would do anything for someone is a great feeling. You want to make them happy. You love to see them smile. You just believe them in so much. It’s great. It’s what we were built to do.
9. You can achieve the kind of happiness that only a lover can give you. You’ll be satisfied doing things that used to make you feel lonely. Spending all day in bed is a new adventure. Going to Kinko’s with your significant other to fax something can be a blast! OMG babe, we love Kinko’s!
10. You can change your status to “In A Relationship” on Facebook, which is 60% of the reason why you got into the relationship to begin with. Acquaintances who lurk you can see it and know that you’re living a healthy well-adjusted life. You’re not one of those forgotten ones.____________
11. Being in a relationship is great because you have that promise of having a good night kiss each night before you lie down. You have that promise that someone will be next to you throughout the night. Having someone to wake up to after a horrible nightmare is one of the most comforting things one will ever know. Each morning you are guaranteed to wake up to that beautiful face you have come to love and kiss those lips each morning.
12. There is a less likely chance you're going to get sexually transmitted diseases. I know those things are pretty common, but they're especially common in people who sleep with...well, everyone. If you're actually settled down in a relationship, more than likely you are not with someone that is sleeping with everyone. If you're a person like me that doesn't really have flings, and stays with one person for long periods of time, you're better off. The less people you sleep with, the less likely you're going to get an STD.
13. Not only do you have the opportunity of getting better at sex, but you're actually having it! No more 3 month dry spells. More than likely, you're getting laid at least a few times a week if you are in a healthy, stable relationship.
14. Suddenly, holidays don't seem to bad. When Thanksgiving and Christmas come around, being alone is horrid. You just wish there was someone you could cuddle up on the couch with drinking hot chocolate and watching Christmas movies. When you are in a relationship, these are the things you do. Plus, Valentines Day is so much better when you're not single.
15. As you get older, your friends have their lives and you have yours. Sometimes, you just don't feel like you can't talk to them about things or maybe their just not listening. When you're in a relationship, there's always someone to talk to. The best part is that in some ways, they know you better than you know yourself.Your significant other picks up on the exact face you make when you're upset but don't want to admit to it. They pull the things out of you that need to be talked about because they hate seeing you sad.
16. Stories are so much better when you have a constant person. When you're switching boyfriends like shoes, it's not acceptable to tell the stories of the crazy times you had with your ex. Being in a stable relationship, you create many of those stories and they remember them just as you do. They are told to your friends and family throughout the years and they hold so much more meaning being with one person that 20 different people.
Being in a relationship is really amazing. People who are single bitch about how they want to be someone and a lot of people who have been in a relationship say they wish they could be single for awhile again. Personally, I'm not one for being single. I like sharing my life with someone. I like being there to make someone happy. I like the adventures and conversations that never get old.
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If you're not in a relationship and this blog post just bummed you out, check out the pros of being Single.
I like it buddy good stuff lol! Change the bottom picture to a dog and it looks alright to me, but I see whare both sides have there up and down's.
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