Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

Today, I want to talk about beauty and self esteem.

Only 2% of women describe themselves as beautiful.
Isn't that an incredibly low number. That means out of every 50 women you've met in your lifetime, only 1 of them would consider herself beautiful.



I know I am not one of these girls. I'm not saying I wake up every morning just to look in the mirror and say "You need to get prettier you ugly piece of shit," but the word "beautiful" doesn't even come close to mind when thinking of words to describe myself.

Self esteem is more or less created or depleted based on your experiences as child. There are many things that can lead to self esteem issues as an adult and looking through them, it would be difficult to raise a child without at least some of these.

-Physical or mental abuse-Most people with self esteem issues have had one or the other, sometimes both.
-Negligence- Children require a lot of love, affection, and attention. They cannot simply be ignored or told to go watch television or play outside when you don't feel like dealing with them, especially when you never feel like dealing with them minus the basic duties on cleaning, feeding, and putting to bed.
-Excessive Criticism- Hearing that you are fat as a child will kill you, even if when you grow up you're 5"5' and only  weigh 100 lbs. Those things stick with you and they hurt.
-Comparison with others-You can't compare your child to everyone around them. You need to measure your child's achievements by how hard she tries, not by how well other children are doing.
-Peer Pressure and Bullying-This one speaks for itself, I think.
-Betrayal-betrayal in a romantic relationship can really break a person. I can speak for this one personally. If you haven't read my story, it's here. This basically explains how I got completely fucked over by the first guy who ever showed interest in me and since then I have vowed to never let a man hurt me like that again. It's held true thus far, but it kills me inside. I'm overly jealous of any girls my significant other wants to speak to without me being in the conversation and I despise it. I can't control it though because when I find out or I'm told, I assume the worst and get an awful pit in my stomach feeling for weeks.

Life isn't easy.
It's a lot harder when you have low self esteem issues and, as I covered earlier, this is 98% of women.
It's hard to look at almost every other girl in a room and say "I wish I was a pretty as her."