Asking For Advice

 Be careful whose advice you take, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia; Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling it for more than its worth.

I have always loved youreecards, but can never seem to find appropriate ones to actually send to people. Although this one wouldn't really be appropriate to send anyone, I found myself drawn to it. "Why?" you ask. I find myself drawn to this because it is the story of my life.

I'm wonderful at giving advice, but not so great at taking my own. I can't be at fault for not taking the advice of others though simply because I just do not ask for it. I never ask for the advice of others because I know I will never follow it. I will just follow my heart.

I used to always give advice at Hunts though. Deanna would be talking to me about her daughter or her ex/boyfriend or new people that were in her life. I always gave her my opinion on the situation, what i thought she should do, and what I would do. For some reason, I always expected my words to go to heart, but they rarely did. In the following weeks, I would always watch the events unfold just as I had told her they would.

I'm probably being over critical. I don't take people's advice either. Sometimes, I wonder what the point of advice is at all. When I think of why someone would ask for advice, I generally think it's because they're pretty lost in a situation and they need an outsiders view to see what is really happening in a situation and how to fix it. I have this mindset that they will see my view as the all knowing and listen to a thing I have to say.

I guess in all honesty, this isn't the case at all. When people ask for advice, they already have something in mind. They have thought this through time and time again: each word, sentence, action, and reaction. They've played the scene out a million times through in their head. They're only asking for advice to see if someone else has the same insane idea they do.They want someone to justify their actions.

I suppose that is why I have never been the one asking for advice. When I come up with something, there is no swaying my intentions. I just go for it without looking back. If I found out my actions weren't entirely justified later, I already know there is no turning back. I've already dived in, things aren't going to get any better if I try climbing out afterwards.